Physical, mental, and emotional feelings after a session After the first session you may feel a little out of place. you have experienced immense pleasure and different types of pain with Me. I allowed you to experience fear and emotions that you are not used to feeling. Because you have experienced the high of being Mine, you might feel low or down after leaving Me. After a session you may experience what some call 'sub low', 'sub down', or even an odd mini state of depression that is temporary. During a session you may have an endorphin rush. After an endorphin rush your body may feel hungry or tired.  you might have feelings of being alone or a yearning to know My collar again. Accept that these are appropriate ways to feel about your longing to be Mine again. The first session had moments of uncertainty and fear that you now understand but now you will feel a different fear - the fear of knowing that I can indeed take you to your limits. you feel a rush at knowing I am so powerful and that I will allow you to return. If I did not tell you that you are accepted to return to Me, then why would you be at this page? I support those that are Mine as they read and experience a 'low' after leaving Me. Again, this is natural so do not worry if it takes you a few hours or even a couple of days to get back on your vanilla track. Feel free to e-mail Me after any session to discuss your feelings and the new desires you have as well as the different understanding of your limits. Communication is important and I demand that you are honest with Me and a line of communication is always open. I am here as your Mistress when you need Me. If  you need to, you may call. If you are Mine then I want to take care of you. I love to play with My toys but I do not want to break them. Physically: Check to be sure you have no marks or bruising that you need to hide. I am very careful how I play with My toys that need to not be marked but accidents can happen in play. So review the body since some marks may take a couple hours to show or even a day or two. If I played hard you may have bruises. In a couple of hours after play time if the area is still hot feeling to the touch use ice to remove the heat and slight bruise swelling. A bad of frozen peas should always be kept in your freezer to use like an ice pack. If the skin has been broken in any way be sure to keep it clean. I will also give you more specific instructions on aftercare if needed for heavier play such as medical play. Are you a subject, a submissive, in training, or My slave It is important that you understand the vocabulary and the differences. I know the first session may have limited O/our play but now the doors shall open to many more joys (and pains) than what you have known before. There are may more time frames (as outlined below) W/we can explore as well as adding in a bitch of Mine or another male sub/slave to the session. As I know you better there may be times that others can come play too. Or interesting role playing games could be added in. And of course the better I know you the closer I can take you to your limits as I show you wonderful new BDSM pleasures and pains. How I view those that serve Me has nothing to do with being a Pro-Domme or a lifestyle Mistress as I am both; the two are never separate - I am always who I am. When a person first comes to Me, I call them My subjects. W/we have little knowledge of each other in the beginning but it is the beginning where trust and honor develops.  I shall now help you to understand so much more in your new life under Me.    I demand that My subjects, My submissives, My sub/slaves in training collars of Mine, and even My slaves offer tributes or services. Gifts are a natural thing for you to want to give.  I am a Goddess who deserves all that you can bestow upon Me. In offering a tribute you are thanking Me for taking time to allow you to serve me.  you show gratitude that I am willing to train you to be a better sub/slave. you will find that I make you happy and your reward is to make Me even happier with your tributes. Besides, if something is free, W/we do not put as much of a value on it. So your tribute helps you understand how lucky you are that I have accepted you. your tribute also shows your caring for Me so that I do not need to worry about the mundane,  and can focus My thoughts on you and time on what pleases Me. Some subjects as they become a submissive shall offer a monthly tribute regardless of how much I may see them in a month. I may allow some to perform services such as house repair, yard work, toy making, car repairs and such manual labors to show favor.  After the first session you are called My subject. I do not own you when you are not here. I shall allow My subjects free will when they are not in My presence. But I know you will miss Me,  so you have permission to e-mail Me at mzkay@bdsmsanctuary.com, but no more than twice a week OR instead I shall allow you to telephone Me at 314-852-1369 once a week for a voice fix - but not both.  Don't get greedy - remember I am your Mistress, not your girlfriend, nor lover so remain respectful and in your place.  But I might be on line right now if you have questions, want to schedule another session, or just wish to be on your knees and say 'hello'.  Yahoo Messenger    After serving as My subject a few times, I may find that you are worthy of being My submissive.  I will discuss this with you. If  both you and I think this should be the next step in your growth . As My submissive  you shall see no ProDommes or Dom/Dommes without My permission. If you travel and play with Other Dommes - I shall allow this but with a penalty.  For each time that you play with another whatever that Pro-Domme received from you I shall receive half of that amount. So if you gave a tribute of $300, your penalty to be gifted to Me shall be $150... easy enough to understand.  Also when you return to Me after being with another Domme you shall bring Me a gift - something personal from My wish list or a carton of Capri 120s at the very least. Then with strong loving arms I shall accept your return as you tell Me of all your times with Her. As My submissive I will allow you to retain your own 'vanilla' life but all of  your BDSM life and desires shall be ruled by Me. I grant you permission to e-mail Me daily if I have told you that you are accepted as one of My submissives or a phone call once a week. As one of My submissives you will want to explore many things that require longer play time. Maybe shaving and feminization training?   I can allow My submissives to play with one another. I know each of them and can be sure that those present can all be compatible in the session. To make a sissy maid takes time or turning a man into a slutty girl takes special time. So as a submissive of Mine you shall be interested in seeing your Mistress for longer periods of time. So you don't get confused I will tell you that I am given the minimum of these gifts by My subjects and submissives - 60 minutes ~ 100 minutes $250.00,  1.5 hour ~  2.5  hours $350.00,  2.5 hours ~ 3.5 hours $500.00 plus over-nites are also possible Or maybe you want to play with some of My other subs or slaves?  The submissive of Mine that requests another added into a play time shall understand that the tribute of at least $500.00 shall be  gifted for  a 1 to 3 hour session for My sub and the extra sub/slave present. Time really depends on what W/we will be doing. Want more fun and to have even another sub/slave there - the more the merrier? Then  add $150.00 per hour, per person. Want another Femdom to be present, desire another Mistress to take you while I watch to be sure My toy is not broken? Can you handle two Mistresses at once? If you think you can then the tribute of at least $500.00 shall be  gifted for  a 1 to 2 hour session. Collar of Consideration Training Collar: I may offer you a Collar of Consideration or a training collar - then you would be Mine in training.  If you are Mine in Training then you will find much happiness in a monthly budget of tribute being established.  The dungeon must be kept clean and that will be in part a duty you shall perform during a session. I will see you at least once a month and will desire that you attend Me in any BDSM functions I desire to go to, and of course you shall treat Me to any affairs in an exalted manner of elegance. In My collar you shall work with My #1 to be trained in manners and what I expect. More will be told to you if I take you into Collar of Consideration or a full a training collar. For those that excel, and/or ones that I take a special liking to, I may offer to take you as My slave. This is the highest honor any submissive can be granted and I do not take this lightly since I have been in the lifestyle for so many years. If you are ever worthy I shall let you know.

SO My toy. . . how long can you wait till you see Me again? I know it will not be long!

If you wish to purchase items for O/our sessions you may do so with My approval. From the noted Wish List, the items will be sent directly to Me. Additional toys for O/our play may be directly purchased and sent to Me or you may send in additional monies to cover expenses and I will make the purchase. Some toys are personal items and you will have to purchase your special things for play.  I have the room to store items so do not hesitate to ask about keeping things here. Gurls need shoes and clothes.  For all fetish wear, shoes and sexy boots I purchase through Fetish Flair only.

Words from terri  My #1  -  slave of the House of Sanctuary

If you have seen Mistress Kay for the first time and/or now seeing this page for the first time, know now that there are several things for you to understand.  i am to introduce myself, for i am Mistress Kay's number one, terri.
        Having been Her subject, Her submissive, Her's in training, and now as Her slave, i feel it is not only my duty but my pleasure and obligation to offer insights based on personal experience that may help in your transitional periods post session. Many times you may find it totally difficult to function in "hamburger reality" afterwards due to the emotional roller coaster you have just encountered.
        During Y/your first session, you have felt a multitude of emotions and physical sensations, many of these may come to you only after the session -when you have the time to reflect on ALL that has taken place during Y/your time together. Be aware that this is totally natural and more easily dealt with as you better understand the transformation process.
         you are being taught to walk totally on the edge. you have been taken to your self imposed limitations and are beginning to experience new boundaries as they will be pressed upon you by Mistress Kay. Understand that this is done with much respect and often gentleness on the part of our beloved Mistress.
        There has been such a mixture of both pleasure and pain. Endorphins run extremely high. we experience fear within total trust, tears within release, humility in the discovery of our infallibility and in our desire to be more. It is a never ending battle of the strive for excellence and our feeling of never being perfect enough. Here in lies our drive and what makes us ever hungry to be a better being, to serve our Goddess. we feel a total high of having been Her's and afterwards feel the deepest of  lows and desiring once again to be at Her side, and the need to be claimed once again by Her.
        Often times after a session, during those periods of recall, we may feel alone, unsettled in our vanilla lives, and go through a great need to feel the  security and comfort that comes from the snugness of Mistresses collar. Mistress wishes you all to know that this is very natural feeling and is a very acceptable way to feel in our desire to once again belong to Her, and for us to know that She is here to help us go through these processes. Know too that if you belong to this house that you are deeply loved and cared for by our Queen and every one who is Her's.
        i do not get to spend near enough time with Mistress Kay. only once, MAYBE twice a year, i get to spend 2 weeks of  24/7 with Her and when i return home it is such a difficult time for me that i go into sever depression that takes me a month or more sometimes to get out of.  As intense as it is for me, i also know that it is appropriate because it shows just how deeply that i long to once again physically be with my Queen, which is where i belong.
        During our first visits we learn that our fears were misguided and were of the unexpected. Now that we know that this is what our fear was and have put a name to it, it no longer exists. But now we have a new one to deal with. As we examine ourselves and our desires, we have come to realize that Mistress is already ahead of us. We have tasted a piece of ourselves that until now we have not allowed to come into fruition and as we place our lives in the very able hands of our Mistress, we need to be aware that our new fears are related to our balloon being broken and finding that we are indeed way bigger than we would have otherwise allowed ourselves to be without Her guidance.
        In this house (the Sanctuary of Mistress Kay) truth, integrity and authenticity of self are the biggest issues. you will never be lied to within these walls, therefore it is mandatory for us also be open and honest with not only our Mistress and each other, but more importantly with ourselves. W/we understand that it takes time for self discovery and for this to happen but i wish to let you know that you will be called on it by Mistress long before we ourselves get it. That is not to say that She is going to tell you what that may be, but She will lead you to discover it for yourselves as that is a much more valuable lesson learnt and one that makes you that much more worthy to serve Mistress.
        Remember that we are reflections of our Mistress. Just as an untrained pet is very unbecoming and a poor statement of ownership so to is how we reflect our image a statement to the outer world and needs to be thought of ALWAYS.

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